Month: April 2018

  • Cups

    Have you ever heard the saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup”?

    Well, it stems from the idea that you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. Kind of like how you’re supposed to put your oxygen mask on first before you help the person next to you if there’s an emergency while on an airplane.

    I’ve been hearing “you can’t pour from an empty cup” since 2014 – when I first started my personal development journey.

    BUT a couple weeks ago, I was talking to my best friend, Adri, about a conference she went to and she totally changed this up for me in a way that I haven’t been able to stop thinking about ever since she brought it up.

    We all know you can’t pour from an empty cup. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. So self-care isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. In fact, IT IS SELFISH of you NOT to take care of yourself! (Think about it, if your cup is empty, you’re negative, a Debbie-downer and no one wants to be around you.) But when you’re full and filled with life and happiness, everyone wants to be around you! People NEED more of that!

    So she said, if your cup isn’t full, like, completely full, you’re taking away from your own happiness to give to someone else. It’s leaving you a little empty and them a little empty too because you can’t pour into them fully.

    But if you fill your cup up all the way (meaning you’re at your personal best!) you can give your “overflow” to others. The more you take care of yourself, the better you can take care of others.

    That changed the game for me.

    Because it’s so true!

    If you think about it, when your cup is overflowing, you don’t have to take anything anyway from anyone (including yourself) AND you get to help the people around you do the same! If you keep your cup overflowing and teach other people how to overfill their cups, could you imagine how much better the world would be?!

    Maybe that’s the secret to world peace.

    I mean.. idk for sure.. But I’m willing to find out. So that’s my personal mission.

    How’s your cup looking these days? Do you think your life and the lives of those closest to you would be a little better if your cup was filled all the way up?

  • An Iconic Weekend

    I am so happy and grateful that I got to spend this past weekend with some of my best friends and also meet so many amazing new women! I’ve said this before and I don’t think I’ll ever stop saying it but there is truly NOTHING like finding the people who become your tribe. I feel like my most authentic self when I’m with these women. I feel excited about life, confident in who I am and a challenge to become even better! This weekend was the perfect mix of things I love to do with my friends and we got a full experience of all the feels.

    Friday

    We laugh way too hard at things that aren’t even funny naturally, but on Friday we actually had a “Sips + Giggles Night” that Bree hosted, and one of our friends Anna coordinated! Annas boyfriend is a comedian and also has comic friends so they put together a hilarious show and I literally almost peed my pants.

    Saturday

    We attended a regional event together and learned some valuable information (we all love learning and growing so this was a perfect way to start the day.) We also all matched by wearing the color red, which might sound corny to you guys but you know what it’s honestly so much fun and we don’t need your judgement okay. Then we got to grab lunch and enjoyed a glass of rosé and the most amazing tacos together!! I don’t think it’s possible to NOT have a good time when there’s food, friends and pink drinks.

     

    Saturday Evening

    We got set up for our first ever Girl Gang Wine Club MOVIE NIGHT!! The movie, the set up, the rooftop was all ON POINT. It was such a vibe to see every mixing and mingling snacking and stirring up conversations with old friends, and new ones! We watched Think and Grow Rich the Legacy which deserves its own blog post entirely, but it was a great way to get everyone talking about big ideas and even some breakthroughs!

    Sunday

    This was the only day that didn’t necessarily go as planned but it was still perfect day and a perfect end to an incredible weekend. Bree, Nora, our friend Mindy and I did a lot of brainstorming and masterminding (may or may not have involved a girl gang wine club brand and some exciting things coming up…..) and I finished the day getting to spend some time with Bree’s son Kodah who I’m utterly obsessed with, for good reason because she makes the most perfect humans.

    All in all it was a weekend to remember and such a great indication of the future of Iconic Wine Beauties and I’m just so so blessed and grateful to have such incredible amazing women in my life who are straight up joys to be around.

    What are some of your favorite things to do with your friends? I would love to know 🙂

    Til next time,
    Xoxo Meraiah

  • Trust Me, I’m A Photographer

    Hahahaha, I’ve always wanted to say that. I’m really not. But this week, I went to Miami for a photography workshop hosted by Joey Wright! His workshop has been on my vision board for a few YEARS already and I finally decided to go this year because back in December, a VERY pregnant Bryiana Dyrdek decided that in 2018 I was going to do all the things I’ve always wanted to say “yes” to, but have somehow managed to make up an excuse for. So far, I’m doing really good at sticking to this resolution and let me tell you – it is REVOLUTIONIZING my life! I feel like I whole new me and it’s only mid-April! (But also, on the note- WTF IT’S ALREADY APRIL?!)

    Anyway, back in April of 2016 a barely-pregnant Bryiana Dyrdek bought Joey’s FStoppers tutorial, thinking to myself “if I can actually learn from this, then I’ll buy my camera and gear.” Because “learn photography” was on my vision board.

    After watching the video, I decided “I got this” so in June of 2016, I bought my camera, a couple lenses and some other random gear.

    Then Joey announced his 2018 workshop and I bought my ticket! Then booked my hotel.. then booked my flight. Then a week before the workshop, I FINALLY picked up my camera (yes, two years later) to practice on Nora because I knew I was going to this workshop and I at least needed to know how to operate my camera. Hahaha.

    For context, this is one of the pictures that was shot during our “shoot” lol. #WheresNora

    Speaking of Nora, she decided at the last minute to book her flight to Miami and came with me. We accidentally got mega wine drunk immediately upon arrival because we couldn’t find a restaurant that was open, but the bar was. So the plan was to grab a drink while we waited for the restaurant to open, but since we didn’t have any food in our bodies until that point, the wine hit us extra hard.

    PS – Nora also thought she saw Julia Roberts. Hahahahahaha (still dying)

    But back to the workshop –

    I learned SO much. Had a GREAT time. Made a MEGA rookie mistake: I accidentally deleted the pictures on my memory card. (But fingers crossed that Samys Cameras can recover the lost images.) I got to hang out with Nora and our friend/fellow Iconic Beauty/fellow Iconic Wine Beauty, Victoria and I got to cross a MAJOR thing off my vision board.

    I would be lying if I said I wasn’t dealing with some MAJOR mom-guilt leading up to leaving though.

    But here’s the thing: I can’t spend my whole life telling my kids to chase their biggest, wildest dreams, respect themselves, forgive themselves and love themselves if they spend their whole lives watching me do the complete opposite for myself. So yes – there was a part of me that felt selfish for leaving for a few days but Kodah is 19 months old and Nala is 3.5 months old. They have no concept of time. They don’t know that I was gone. But if they were older and I didn’t chase after my dreams, they would grow up with a mom filled with self-doubt and regret. In 2018, I am challenging myself to be a kick ass mom, perfect wife and dream chaser. After we have more kids, picking up and living won’t even be an option. If all I have is 2018 to make my random dreams come true, then I’m going to seize the hell out of this year.

    Because my kids deserve a mom they can be proud of. My husband deserves a wife he can brag about. And I deserve to live a life that fulfills me in every sense of the meaning. I want to do it all. I want to be it all. And it starts here and now.

    Okay, but seriously though – back to the workshop.

     

    Thursday was lecture day.

    We spent most of the day in the classroom with Joey. He had a great presentation that went over his pre-production process and then we went to the beach around sunset time for a posing demo. Which so good!

    I also got asked if I thought it was weird that I was the only girl in the class. But it’s 2018. Of course I didn’t think it was weird that I was the only girl in the class. I didn’t even think about that lol. I thought it was weird that I was the only one in the class who wasn’t a photographer!

    Friday was the hands-on stuff.

    We started with a sunset shoot and 4 different models, then we ended the day with a sunset shoot with the same models. Knowing that I’m not a photographer, Joey pulled me aside during one of my rotations and broke down the basics for me on a handful of different things and I can’t even begin to tell you how much I appreciated that. I’ve always really looked up to and respected Joey. I was just happy to be there! But the fact that he took the time to teach me a little more, made me less intimated to be there.

    Saturday was a retouching demo and a portfolio review.

    This is where I basically ruined my life and accidentally deleted the pictures from my memory card. That I borrowed form another photographer. Because I didn’t bring a back up memory card. Since my brain didn’t think that far ahead. Extra rookie mistake.

    But there were a handful of AMAZING guys there who were willing and happy to help me figure it all out. I’m so used to starting any new journey with the mentality that “I don’t belong” and “everyone’s going to hate me” which has prevented me from even attempting to step out of my comfort zone on SO many occasions.

    I LOVED Thursday. I LOVED Friday. And I LOVED Saturday. But I extra loved the experience of overcoming a new challenge. To sum it all up, these are a few of my COMPLETELY UNEDITED favorite shots from the workshop. (Keep in mind – I’M NOT A PHOTOGRAPHER – So don’t judge me. And, I’m still waiting for the pictures from my other memory to magically make their way back to me lol.)

    Hannah

    Abby

    ALLI

    BONNIE

    Workshop hosted by Joey Wright: http://www.joeywrightphoto.com

    Models were Hannah and Abby and Alli and Bonnie

    Moderated by Chris Headshots and Dante and Victor

    Hair + Make Up by Anna Horton and Jenny Dyson

    Swimwear provided by Beach Gal and Montce and Aria

    Assisted by by Lily and Carly

    Of course I want to thank YOU for bearing with me during this mega long blog post. But I also want to extend a MEGA warm thank you to everyone who made this past weekend so special. I am so grateful to have had this incredible experience. If you’ve ever considered photography but don’t know where to get started, I HIGHLY recommend Joey’s workshop regardless of your experience. #NotAnAd

  • Easter With The Dyrdeks

    Every holiday is so much more fun and so much more special with a family of my own now. Even though my kids are too young to really understand what’s going on (oldest is 18 months and youngest is 3 months) I’ll do anything to get some sort of positive reaction out of them and if that means going all out for holidays just to get a tiny smile or a cute family photo at the end of it all, then it’s all worth it.

    But Easter!

    This year was such a hit with him, my husband has decided that Easter is his new favorite holiday. I threw together a SUPER last minute gathering (because that’s pretty much how they all come to fruition) for a few of our friends and family and it was SO nice having everyone come together. Call us crazy, but my husband and I LOVE having a house filled with a ton of screaming/happy kids running around and playing with each other. (Which is why we want 5 or 7 kids.)

     

    There were only about 10 kids so I may have gone a little overboard with the amount of eggs we filled with candy and money for the Easter egg hunt (there was about 500) but it was so worth it and everyone loved it!

    For Food

    Appetizers were pastel-colored deviled eggs, chocolate covered strawberries and store bought hummus + pita, veggie + ranch tray and mini sandwich wraps.

    For the entree we had steak, mushroom and potato skewers with white rice, honey glazed carrots, cucumber salad and Hawaiian rolls.

    For dessert, I made what I always make for every party I throw and that is a Better Than Sex Cake (yes, that’s really what it’s called) but this time I added green dye to the cool whip to make “grass” and added yellow + pink bunny peeps with candy eggs on top to decorate it for the holiday.

    For Drinks

    I kept it really simple this time.

    I did a mimosa bar (like I usually do) so there were different juices for the kids. There was also wine (obviously) and we had pink lemonade in a drink dispenser for some color and that’s what most of the kids ended up drinking anyway, so it worked out perfectly.

    For Entertainment

    Easter. Egg. Hunt. DUH!

    Bubbles are also a HUGE hit with my favorite crowd of young people so we have a bubble machine that we bring out when they come over. I also had a variety of bubble toys for them to play with and slime/silly putty.

    When it started to get a little chilly, everyone ended up in Kodah’s playroom or “playing” with the VR rendering of our future home lol. (That last part wasn’t planned) lol.

    Overall: Success!

    We had a house full of happy kids, closed out the night with extremely full hearts and my husband adopted a new favorite holiday! (Mine is still the 4th of July)

    I LOVED this Easter. It was hands down my favorite one so far. Which just means that next year and all the other years have to be better than this one. No pressure though.